Often, children can feel fear: Darkness, loneliness, ghosts, etc. The important thing is for parents to understand this behavior to help them overcome all their concerns.
According to the research of experts, fear is “An agonizing disturbance because of real or imagined risk.” Fears are something essential in human beings, for it is through fear that we can recognize a dangerous situation and try to overcome it.
Fears have an evolutionary function connected with the need to preserve life and survival, said the experts of the Association for Children’s Mental Health. For this reason, as the child grows and becomes more autonomous, fears evolve and childish fears tend to disappear in adolescence.
Fears according to age
As a child, you sure had situations of fear that marked you. Now your children have different fears and do not know how to handle them: They cry, they tell you they are afraid, they do not want to sleep, they do not want you to leave them alone and other distressing sentences.
The important thing is to know that, depending on your age, your children may feel different fears:
Being smaller (between two and three years old) they are afraid of the abandonment of their parents and relatives. This is why they can be distressed when you leave them in the nursery or in the home of a family member.
From the age of four, they can feel a precise fear of the dark.
From the age of six, you can have fears and insecurities like ghosts, monsters, death, big animals, stealing at home, etc.
What is important is that parents take the correct attitude when it comes to “frighten” the fears that their children have, because of the management they give to these fears can disappear or remain forever in their lives.
Some guidelines are:
Encourage him: If the child thinks there is a monster, accompany him to look for him under the bed. If you think they are going to steal, go with him to close the door of the house. What is important is that the child sees that he lives in a safe environment and that nothing can happen under the supervision of his parents.
Do not make fun of children’s fears: Your parents or older siblings should never laugh at the fear children feel. On the contrary, with all the patience of the world, they should try to calm them and try to make them disappear from the minds of children.
Make sure they watch TV programs appropriate for their age: It is not recommended that children watch programs of fear and suspense when they are not old enough to understand that everything is a fantasy. That alone could increase their fears.
Do not scold them: Phrases like “you’re big and you should not be afraid” or “you’re a scary” may make the child more insecure. Avoid these types of sentences when it comes to treating an anxious or fearful child.
Take the child to a therapist when, because of their fears, they do not want to eat, sleep, or do their activities in the normal way.
How do you handle the fears of your youngest children?